Been there and back

Back again after another period of silence.


I think people temporarily stop blogging for 3 reasons:

1. Didn't find anything worthy to share
2. Wish to maintain privacy
3. Not in the mood to pen down thoughts and feelings


All 3 reasons apply to me.

Sometimes, people wonder what life is all about. Till now, I've heard quite a few analogies. Life is...

• ...like a roller coaster: there are ups and downs (from HCl and Phillis)


• ...like a box of chocolates: you'll never know what you're gonna get next (from "Forrest Gump")


• ...like a bed of roses: boy, is it thorny *ouch ouch* (from some book I read back in my primary school days)

The list is neverending.

There are occasions when I think of the days before, when I used to be much happier. However, those were the days when I was blissfully ignorant. Wanting to go back to those times, would mean to stay in a little world of my own, where only the things that made me happy exist.

In other words, I would not be not giving another thought to how the Americans have turned on one another in times of crisis instead of bonding together after disaster struck. Or disagreeing that the way to stop terrorists from killing people would be to kill off all the terrorists. Or turning a blind eye to the rising divorce rates among middle aged Singapore couples.

I remember reading from somewhere, that realising how terrible the world can be will make you treasure what you have now. Kind of sounds like pessimism leads to optimism. Makes everything more gray.

When I was still young, I tried to define everything in black and white. There only right or wrong. Nothing exists in between. Growing up made me realise that trying to define everything only makes life more difficult for myself. I learnt to accept that gray areas are ever present, and the problems that arose with them must be dealt with.

Classifying everything as either black or white means refusal to face problems. Like heart attack or stroke, the problems will hit you harder when they recur, than when they did previously.

Enough of unhappy issues.

One of the best ways to make yourself smile, would be to see the smiles of those who are close to you, or are an important part of your life. But what if they're not smiling, you ask.

Well, do something that can make them smile.